Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Who is they?????

I find it more than interesting that when offering encouragement or advice or well wishes that it usually starts with. "You know what they say?" Who the heck is THEY???? Where was THEY when I needed a hand to hold. Where was THEY when I needed an ear to listen? Where was THEY when I needed someone to sit quietly when I needed to grieve? Where was they when I needed a shoulder to lean on? Where was THEY????

Today has been another one of those challenging days in the life of a parent of a child who is hurting. Another test of my strength, resolve, love and compassion! It is cold, grey and damp outside so it fits my mood and countenance and yet I search for answers!

So what do THEY say to those of us who just do not know what else to do? What do THEY say to us as others cast stones? What do THEY say when you are rejected by a loved one? What do THEY say when there are no good options? What do THEY say when the system is broke and the life of a loved one is damaged? What do THEY say when you say Enough is Enough!

Let me tell you what THEY say! They say nothing! The silence is deafening as there are no words that can describe the feelings that I and the mother of my child feel today! Words are hollow today! Feelings are real today! I am not emotionally overwrought but I am wondering what "THEY" would say to a hurting parent who only wants their child to grow and develop and have a happy successful life!

I do have hope! I do know the source of hope! I am not without hope. I just hope and pray the same can be said for my hurting child today! My child did not deserve to be hurt, damaged and abandoned by a selfish biological parent. My child did not deserve be physically and emotionally abused by foster parents and foster siblings for years. My child did not deserve to be placed in a home where they were not the only child so they could get what they truly needed? My child did not deserve to be in the position that they are in today.

What do THEY have to say to my child today? Lord knows I don't know what to say!